To complicate matters more, even though I've had sex in the past, I vowed to abstain from sex before marriage.Since I'm so committed to my career, this decision isn't that difficult for me.
There are many churches to whom these do not apply.“The day will come when a woman will sit in your office and proposition you. If your marriage is in trouble or if you are not up-to-date in your relationship with your Lord, you could get in big trouble fast.” I raised my hand. Taylor,” I said, “do you really believe that every one of us in this room will face this? I was thankful I had gotten this thing right in my office that day.) The writer of Proverbs tried to do the same thing Dr.” My mind was incapable of imagining a scenario in which a woman–any woman–would sit in a pastor’s office and try to seduce him. Taylor did for us in seminary that day: prepare the young lad for what he would be facing down the road.But it's a detail that makes guys wary about groping a woman of the cloth, and most simply bolt. If my date presses me, I fess up, "I'm a pastor at a church." Most guys seem disappointed, and some question my sexual boundaries — are you saving yourself until marriage? (Yes and yes.) But while I'm game for hooking up, I can't have sex now, and for guys, that's often a deal-breaker.That's why I hide my profession early in a relationship. I faced my biggest obstacle about a year and a half ago, when, just as I began serving as a full-time pastor, I was itching for sex, day and night.There are beautiful, generous, wise people in the congregations and on staff.So I’m not trying to disparage churches in general; I’m only describing an experience that I believe lies in the blind spot of many churches.One day, in a room filled with young preacher boys, Dr.Taylor cautioned us about the temptations we would be facing. (Fifteen years after she sat in my office making herself available to the young preacher, while preaching in another state, I spotted that woman and her husband–the same husband whose antics had given her cause to seek my counsel originally–in the congregation.But I really need you take this job for me.” Wife: “Well, okay, just tell me what to do and when it needs to be done by, and I will do everything I can to make it happen.” Husband: “Well, right now there are no specific responsibilities. Things are always tight around here on a pastor’s salary. Basically, it’s just doing anything at church that no one else steps up to do or wants to do.” Wife: “Oh my, that is a tall order. Husband: “Well, actually honey, there is no salary .