Online dating monogamy


It’s so “easy” now for people to dump that pain in the butt girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse that long term relationships are jeopardized. Of course I’ve been discussing this topic for many years now. Yes, it is indeed easier now for folks to find sexual partners.When reading this article I was reminded about something I heard Tom Leykis say on the radio about “If you’re single and want to find someone to have sex with, go to It notes “Jacob’s” new found ability to find new sexual partners whenever he wants, so he doesn’t have to worry about any one relationship not working out: “I went from being someone who thought of finding someone as this monumental challenge, to being much more relaxed and confident about it”….Instead, you can talk to multiple people and keep some of them in your back pocket until you decide you're bored enough to actually hang out with them.Of course, not everyone's intentions are that shallow.This generation is radically rethinking straight sex and marriage, but at what cost?In Part One of a two-part series, Rolling Stone goes under the covers in search of new approaches to intimacy, commitment and hooking up.Tonight is one of those nights, and soon Leah will head to Jim’s penthouse apartment, where the rest of the evening, she says, will probably entail “hanging out, watching something, having sex.” “She’ll usually spend the night,” Ryan adds nonchalantly, which gives him a chance to enjoy some time alone or even invite another woman over.He doesn’t have a long-standing secondary relationship like Leah (“I’ve actually veered away from doing that”), but he certainly enjoys the company of other women, even sometimes when Leah is home.

So instead of going hog wild with a bunch of random topics, I’m going to discuss the primary premise of the article. The article’s concern is that because online dating has become so prevalent and easy, it’s going to be harder for people to create and stick with monogamous relationships.But what if online dating makes it too easy to meet someone new?What if it raises the bar for a good relationship too high?Thanks to online dating sites, Jacob pursues dates with “one or two very pretty, ambitious women a week.” He recently ended a two-year relationship with a 22-year-old; he’s currently juggling flings with “a paralegal and a lawyer who work at the same law firm, a naturopath, a pharmacist, and a chef.” writer Dan Slater frames him, is the embodiment of a new dating market where the allure of “online romance is threatening monogamy.” Whenever he meets another woman online, Jacob (not his real name) thinks: “This person could be exclusively for me, but so could the other two people I’m meeting this week.” Why have a real relationship, Slater asks, when there are so many attractive, successful partners waiting online?I don’t know—maybe because we're not all aimless and lazy thirtysomething straight dudes?If you’re married and want to find someone to go have sex with, go to ” I laughed when I heard that, but I didn’t realize at the time the huge paradigm shift that was taking place in society, and how right he was. Laura on the radio (a conservative “Dear Abby” type show where people call in about their relationship problems) and sure enough, a woman was calling in about how her husband had been cheating on her…with a woman he had found using Having met Rachel so easily online, he felt confident that, if he became single again, he could always meet someone else. This one skill alone is probably one of the core skills every man needs in the 21st century.Hell, one of the three primary goals of the entire SMIC program is to teach guys how to get to the point where they can have sex with , whenever you want, even if you’re starting from complete scratch. Because as I’ve been saying for many years now, on this blog and on forums and in books, a man without the ability to replace a new sexual partner quickly will always, always start clinging to the woman he happens to be with, even if that woman makes him very unhappy. Because I’m a beta male pussy who doesn’t now how to get out there and have sex with new women quickly, I’m going to put up with this bitch who yells at me whenever I leave my socks on the floor and barks at me to take out the trash and “doesn’t let me” hang out with my buddies or buy that new truck.For one thing, it lumps an entire population of people into one tiny portal, where you can sit on your computer or stare at your phone for hours, as you rapid-fire search for someone you may possibly be interested in.It's quick, convenient and requires minimal effort, as opposed to actually leaving your house and meeting someone in public.Meet Jacob, a thirtysomething, single Portlander on the prowl.He describes himself as “average-looking.” Girlfriends have called him “lazy, aimless, and irresponsible with money.” He doesn’t care much about “a solid credit score,” “a 40-hour workweek,” or settling down.

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