We just wait around until a guy asks us out, and then we decide if we’re going to let it happen.Now I know that it doesn’t always happen that way, but that’s the way society has long since defined dating, and plenty of women still get asked out to this day.Black women and Asian men are the two groups most notably at a dating disadvantage.They are the hardest singles for me to match, because they tend to be excluded from the match searches of the majority of clients.As someone who has worked with JT Tran of “ABCs of Attraction” for years, I speak from experience when I say I’ve come to know what it’s like for men in the dating scene.I’ll be the first to admit that, if dating happened in a textbook scenario, it’s actually fairly straightforward for women.Of course, the topic of racial preference in relationships has been looked at before, famously by OKCupid as well as the New York Time’s Tierny Lab.
Now imagine being expected to do this in order to find a romantic partner, then try walking up to that really, really cute guy.
Similarly, Asian men’s dating profiles are consistently rated the lowest by single women using online dating sites. “Attractiveness is a very haphazard dish that can’t be boiled down to height or skin colour, but Asian men are told that regardless of what the idyllic mirepoix is or isn’t, we just don’t have the ingredients,” television host Eddie Huang recently wrote in the New York Times.“The structural emasculation of Asian men in all forms of media became a self-fulfilling prophecy that produced an actual abhorrence to Asian men in the real world.”Pop culture is a window into desire.
Consider the male Asian characters in movies you’ve seen in the last several years. When was the last time you saw a North American film where a desirable Asian man played the romantic lead and didn’t know martial arts?
There is even a Tumblr blog that compiles messages from “creepy white guys with Asian fetishes.” Yellow fever was also depicted in Debbie Lum’s documentary, Seeking Asian Female, which takes a close look at relationships between white men and Asian women.
So the real question is not whether white men have a preference for Asian women, but why? Some argue that it’s because Asian women are more docile, submissive, and tame than their raucous and outgoing Caucasian counterparts.
This month, we’ve decided to use this data to launch a series of posts busting common dating myths.
First up: Do Jewish Men Really Have a Thing for Asian Women?
Seriously, check it out; numbers don’t lie: NOTE: We divided White into Jewish and non-Jewish for the purpose of this analysis. As you can see, Jewish and Asians are over-represented by ten times on CMB compared to the total US population.
This is largely due to the fact that we first started our service with a group of 200 young, urban professionals (our own friends!
My friend scrolls through the photos of a man on Facebook.
He’s white, lives in a predominantly white neighborhood, and went to a predominantly white high school.