Dear DX; You are exactly right; there's a lot to be learned by looking at the dynamics of long-distance relationships (or what those of us in the business affectionately refer to as "LDRs").Fortunately, researchers have not neglected this common relationship context.Please see our previous posts by of LDRs is that we don’t see our partners every day. Although being away from someone we care about can be challenging, it turns out that distance allows us to wear the rose-colored glasses of love for longer than we’d get to if we lived with or near our partners.Researchers call this in that we exaggerate our partners’ positives and ignore their negatives."A long-distance relationship can often mask a situation that won’t work," she says.Couples should enjoy the romance of their situation, but also discuss the issues that all must face: where to live, opinions on finances and religion, and most importantly, whether they both want kids. "In some cases they’re waiting to have children," says Mares.
What should these dating partners know about long-distance relationships?
Just because you’re in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean your relationship is destined to fail!
Here are just a few benefits of dating long distance in college: You and your partner are forced to be independent since you’re forced to live your own lives.
These research findings indicate that LDR and GCR dating partners are more alike than different in terms of a number of important relationship characteristics. Click here for other topics on Science of Relationships.
Hopefully, these research findings will allow people in LDRs (or about to starting dating long-distance) to breathe a sigh of relief: distance is a common component of dating, and does not necessarily spell doom for the relationship. Like us on Facebook to get our articles delivered directly to your News Feed.
You must make a schedule that works for the both of you.
People in LDR’s make talking and listening to their significant other a priority, and by doing so, they develop a strong sense of closeness to one another.
If you and your partner get into a fight, it’s obviously harder to reconcile when you’re not face-to-face. If you guys are able to communicate and work things out, your bond becomes stronger, and you know your relationship is worth fighting for. There is no way to keep track of what your partner is doing every second of every day, especially when you’re miles away.
This can be scary, but it forces you to have complete faith. Some couples text all day, some call once a day, and some go days without talking.
A recent study by Northwestern University revealed that partners who live at a distance actually experience health benefits.
Spouses residing 50-plus miles apart, compared with those who see each other regularly, appear to enjoy better overall health — eat better, exercise more, and experience lower levels of anxiety, depression and fatigue.