Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills, Calif.-based psychotherapist and author of "The Self-Aware Parent." That's why it's important to teach your child about relationship-building for the future to ensure she can foster healthy relationships of her own, and be able to work things out with a partner if that's a suitable option.Stifling Statistics It's no secret that children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced, says Christina Steinorth, California-based psychotherapist and author of "Cue Cards For Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships." Studies indicate that daughters of divorced parents have a 60-percent higher divorce rate in marriages than children of non-divorced parents, and sons have a 35-percent higher divorce rate, says Steinorth.“Schedule initial dates on days when the children are with the other parent or hire a baby sitter; and vet dates to make sure you are always safe and sound!” “Keep it light until you’re sure the new love is really, truly the love of your life before including him or her in serious family matters and important events,” Woll said.So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.
Mc Bride encourages being open with children over the age of 11 and telling them that you are going on a date. Ask your children how they feel, and give them the opportunity to ask questions. “Oftentimes, children will adapt to new situations more easily if they feel comfortable and reassured,” notes the Parenting Assistance Line at the University of Alabama.We're going to talk for a few hours after dinner and then I'll be home. Chances are good that he or she already has a good idea of what dating is all about! For example, "I'm going out on a date with (person's name) on Friday.Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' separation before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests."Part of the reason is that when parents are divorced," she says, "it seems to send a message in a non-direct way that divorce is acceptable."To combat the unfavorable odds against your child's future relationships, Steinorth recommends having age-appropriate conversations with your children about the general reasons behind their divorce.RELATED: What Not to Say to a Divorced Mom Pessimistic Views When a child witnesses her parents' marriage crumbling, it's possible that she may adapt a pessimistic perception of relationships in general, especially if high levels of parental conflict are present.Children often fantasize that their parents will reunite. For example, if your children are fearful that dating will take time away from them, set aside special alone time for them.Reassure your children that they come first and their daily routine will remain consistent."Parents can continue to model civil, caring and respectful behavior toward each other," she says.Dating after divorce - even the words fill some divorced parents with dread.The idea of getting back into the dating scene after years being married is daunting at best.But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.