It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones.
It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life--with prayer, careful investigation and family involvement.
In between religious fanatics who use hijab as a way of categorizing women into good girl vs.
bad girl, or right-wing politicians who see hijab as the death of Western values, everyone has an opinion that they are a little too comfortable sharing.
Islam believes the choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime.
The messages young people get can go so far as to warn that "seemingly innocuous email exchanges or online dating could topple one off the Islamic path if one lack[s] vigilance." The takeaway for religious young people is that they should marry, but they shouldn't actually date to get there.
At a Muslim "speed dating" event in 2006, Imam Muhamed Magid of the Adams Center summed it up this way: "Don’t talk to the Muslim girls, ever, but you are going to marry them.
One of those names probably looks less familiar than the others, and for good reason.
But for those who do, the experiences between the genders is often strained and stunted by well-meaning but traditional parents and communities.
The appeal of online dating for marriage-minded singles is obvious: it enables people to be completely upfront about their romantic needs and goals while putting them in touch with others who feel the same.
It’s an efficient, effective way of finding connection and companionship – on your terms.
First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers.
This "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" that develops when they are young continues throughout their lives, and serves as a network to become familiar with other families.
"Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims.
Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) do not enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together and "getting to know one another" in a very deep way as a precursor to selecting a marital partner.